Accept you do not fit and be good with it as the more you read, grow and learn the less you will fit. Don't try to force them to fit into who you want them to be. I neither fit in with them nor do they treat me like a part of the family. don't fit in with my family. They're also passive aggressive in … Subject: I don't fit in with my family at all and I'm stressed out. You don't fit in with the crowd, so you can't sit back and agree with a matter you don't believe in. Be happy with yourself. I feel like a complete outsider in my family. The thing is, they're really lovely people. One way to help yourself is to make some time for yourself, to relax and enjoy what you like and then make time for the rest of the world, including family. How to deal? I just don’t fit in. You do fit in with the family of God. I live with my father, mother and sister. You have an independent mind. Realizing you don't fit in with your family is difficult to handle emotionally. Hi, I don't know if this is the right place to put this but I [20/f] have never felt like I really fit in with my family. Learning what makes you happy is more important than trying to fit someone else’s idea of a successful life. But figuring that out as a teenager can be life-changing. Everyone who knows them loves them, and they're all really tight but I've never felt like I belong with them. They are very insular, very involved with each other, and very apt to causing problems amongst each other if the others don't fit into what they expect of them the instant they expect it. But as I’ve grown older and started a family and career, it’s become an important part of my values to show up for others, for my friends, family, career, and myself, even when it’s not comfortable for me. My family (as in parents and siblings) don't talk to me much or spend time with me or tell me about anything that's going on in their lives or in the family. I ask “what is the truth”. This sounds exactly like my DH's family. 2. I’m trying to be a “better” person, and although I may not have any clue what the means, or how to go about doing it, I’m trying. First I’d like to say I understand. I'm more nerdy and introverted, less religious, and more open minded compared to my family. I … To them, different equals bad. My family and I work on different levels. Unfortunately, many of us spend time thinking about what we ‘should’ be doing, rather than allowing our hearts lead us in the direction we really want to go. I’m 18. You state your opinions loud and clear. Instead, it defines me as different. We don't always fit in with our families as much as we would like to. For me, it translated into a low self-worth, no self-esteem, and reckless behavior. Take me for example. Grow in your wisdom and spirituality. I used to handle it by doing my best to avoid groups where I didn’t fit in right away. Anonymous: Anonymous wrote:I've always felt like the black sheep per se. 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